About RedFlagDaddy

A serious instrument for serious dynamics.

RedFlagDaddy replaces guesswork with structure. We help Dominants, submissives and switches assess consent, compatibility, safety and red flags — using a research-grounded question library, transparent scoring, and real-time journey tracking.

500+
Curated questions
23
Assessment categories
3
Role-aware tracks
5
Scoring dimensions
How it works

Four steps from intent to insight

Step 1

Create a journey

A guided 3-step wizard: name your assessment, pick the respondent's role (Dominant, submissive or switch), and add optional recipient details.

Step 2

Invite a respondent

Share a secure, single-use link or invite code. No account required for guests. They answer privately, on their own time.

Step 3

Adaptive questioning

Questions branch based on role and prior answers, so people only see what's relevant to their dynamic.

Step 4

Structured results

We weight, score and summarise across five dimensions. You get a clear read on safety, alignment and green/red flags — not vibes.

Example question
Consent & Boundaries12 / 38

When a scene approaches your stated limits, what's your default response?

Pause and renegotiate explicitly
Use a safe word immediately
Push through if I trust my partner
Depends entirely on context
Journey tracking

See progress as it happens

You don't send a link and hope. You track every stage with clarity.

Real-time status

Your dashboard shows every journey's status at a glance: active, completed or expired. Click through for live detail.

Step-by-step progress

The journey tracker visualises exactly where a respondent is: invited, started or finished — with timestamps for every stage.

Polls while active

The tracker automatically refreshes while a journey is open, so you see completions as they happen without reloading.

Authenticated results

Results live inside your authenticated account. Only the journey owner can view or regenerate an analysis.

Example journey tracker
Journey created
2 hours ago
Invite sent
2 hours ago
Respondent started
1 hour ago
Assessment completed
Waiting…
3 of 4 completeIn progress
Scoring system

Five dimensions. Transparent weighting.

Every question is tagged with a category, risk level and weight. We aggregate responses into five readable scores — not a single black-box number.

Safety
Risk awareness, aftercare and safe-word practice.
82
Compatibility
Dynamic preferences and lifestyle alignment.
74
Green flags
Trust, communication, emotional intelligence.
91
Red flags
Scenario-based screening for warning signs.
18
Experience
Prior experience and honest self-awareness.
66
Privacy & safety

Built for sensitive conversations

This is intimate data. We treat it that way — by default, not as a setting.

Encrypted in transit & at rest
All traffic served over TLS; data stored on encrypted infrastructure.
You control visibility
Only you and your invited respondent ever see your results — never indexed, never sold.
Row-level access control
Every record is scoped to its owner at the database layer, not just the UI.
Minimal data, deletable
We collect what's needed to score a journey. You can delete a journey and its responses at any time.
Security architecture

Engineered for accountability

We don't just claim security — we enforce it at every layer of the stack.

Verified accounts only
Email verification is required before sign-in. No anonymous sign-ups that bypass accountability.
Admin route guards
Admin pages are protected by server-side role checks before any data ever reaches the client.
Service-to-service auth
Analysis and result endpoints verify the caller's identity on every request, not just at login.
No public result leaks
Result pages require authentication. Share links are for respondents to answer, not for anyone to browse outcomes.
Your account

Everything under your control

A dashboard and profile system that puts you in charge of your data and your safety.

Privacy & data
Control what's stored, manage notification preferences, and review your active journeys from one place.
Safety center
Access consent guides, safety resources and block-list features from your profile.
Notification settings
Choose how and when you hear about journey updates.
Secure sign-out
Sign out from your account at any time. Your session is cleared immediately.

500+ questions. 23 categories. Constantly refined.

Our library is informed by established consent frameworks, BDSM safety literature and community-vetted compatibility checklists — then tagged by role so Dominants, submissives and switches only see what's relevant. Admins can refine tagging with AI-assisted suggestions to keep the library sharp.

ConsentAftercarePower ExchangeBoundariesCommunicationRed FlagsGreen FlagsBDSM SafetyTrustConflict ResolutionAttachment StyleAccountability

Ready to navigate with clarity?